Sunday, April 19, 2009

Hovering Over Your Children

This is an impulse I struggle with as I'm sure any parent does. Lenore Skenazy, the woman who became (in)famous for letting her 9-year-old ride the New York City subway on his own, has a book out now about how to step back and give your children freedom without killing yourself with worry. I think most of us do tend to hover over our children too much and this can have a profound impact on them for their entire lives. With my daughters I really try to give them as much freedom as I can within certain boundaries. I am not always perfect about it, of course, but I do make an effort. I want them to learn how to handle things on their own, how to succeed and fail, and how to keep going when they do either. My hope is that this will make them stronger adults, more confident in their own abilities.

1 comment:

Shawna Noble: said...

I agree with you on this one Shane. I try to do the same with lexi and I hope to continue as she gets older.

This reminded me of something Lexi said to me the other day. We were biking along Lake Elmo and I kept nagging at her to stay close to the side walk, She says; "Mom, what do you always tell me about fear? well??? Don't have so much fear with me. I am being careful and I wont get run over."